A New York Times bestseller. The author Mark Manson has raised the basic issues on what is important in life. And to embrace negative things. This book has everything for people going through bad relationships, unsuccessful career or any major crisis.
Here we share the best lessons this book offered us with –
To get the selective fruits only
With the approach of achieving and trying everything, this generation is dividing its potential. We need to be selective for the people we choose to put in our lives, the series we watch or hobbies we engross. List down the major things you need to achieve and put in all your effort into that only.
This is the harsh truth that Mark showed us. We need a reality check every time which tells us honestly, unbiased about the things we suck in and putting the truth of our lives on as it is. This is essential as we won’t be able to grow or solve our life problems if we live on the denial mode that everything is fine. Denial state is triggered by our mind just to avoid pain. So, we need to get rid of it.
Should know the difference between good and shitty values
Good values are the one that makes our souls happy on focusing the thing that matter and we really want to do for example honesty, compassion etc.
But we tend to fall for the shitty ones such as –
Pleasure = This is just a temporary persona of happiness but really toxic for the long term. That one more episode or making relations just for sex.
Always being right = No one wants to see themselves as wrong or inferior to others. But we can be wrong and many times. But those who see them and their perspective as always right never outgrow in life because there is no room for learning.
It may be argued by many but does have some truth about being optimistic. It sheds us from the light. Being positive is good till some extent but if it puts you in risk of losing something you should be realistic of what if the things get wrong.
Not your fault but the responsibility
Everything that happens to your life is not under your control but how you react is. And taking responsibility for everything in your life will make you cautious towards your actions and help you in getting back to track ASAP. This method is excellent in time of crisis when we lose all hope.
We should remind ourselves every day that we are one day more close to death. Which will give us the realization that time is limited and we need to do something? We live as we are immortal and do every other unimportant thing in this world. So, embrace death while making something good out of your life.
Lastly, this book is extremely recommended for no reader class as well.
“There is a simple realization from which all personal improvement and growth emerges. This is the realization that we, individually, are responsible for everything in our lives, no matter the external circumstances. We don’t always control what happens to us. But we always control how we interpret what happens to us, as well as how we respond. Whether we consciously recognize it or not, we are always responsible for our experiences. It’s impossible not to be. Choosing to not consciously interpret events in our lives is still an interpretation of the events of our lives. Choosing”