As much as the people in this world are, more diverse are their personalities. The personality of a person is determined by the =
life experience + attitude + the environment
The environment can be the stuff we see on our phone or parents, friends. But major thing about our personalities is that they are different and sometimes these differences are so much that it’s difficult to survive within that circle.
Saying from my personal experience when I started off with Undergraduation, I have to move abroad and I left my parental home for the first time. The whole new world was totally different. I really didn’t want to mingle up with the new people not only because they were so different from me, but also I see their way of perceiving things and making choices, really inferior to mine. In short, not single one of them was worth my time. But in order to survive, you need to keep your preferences aside and take what’s given.
And now I still live with the same people, knows their needs, accept them and without any much struggle, I am peace with their characteristics.
So, What exactly it takes to survive in such an environment?
When we meet other people, we see everything related to them, by our point of view. So, every time this will make us realize that people are just selfish and care about their needs. But aren’t we too?. And understanding their nature and what is the reason to coarse their actions, will make us less frustrated.
If you are not a company- loving person, maximum are the chances that you’re introverted and need time for yourself. Thus set aside a particular time for yourself alone, where you can refresh and reflect on your lives, taking break from world always provides with peace.
Only work can cure it.
You should always remember the purpose of your presence at any stage of your life. Likewise in my case, whenever I was in terms of any differences with the people around, I would remember that my purpose of being in college was only studying and my whole energy would involve in studying and pursuing my passion. This realization was definitely the most useful of all the points here.
People are not important. Find the company in other things.
Spend time in your hobbies instead of the people who won’t play part in your growth. Not 100% of your time should be involved in these activities as it will lead you to fully be boycotted from the circle around. But 60% is perfect.
If lonely use your best circle.
Family, best of friends that understand you in every mood. Use them, talk to them when you feel to bond with someone. It’s also extremely healthy to put your emotions out.
Express your thoughts.
The best part of any human connection is communication. That is you can speak and others can listen or vice versa. This works as a therapy. So, if you don’t really want to bond with other people, an alternative must be developed to put your emotions out. Be it writing or drawing. Saying it loud in the room alone on how, what’s, why’s you feel. Or use your real connection, best friends/spouse/ family or anyone.
The power of generosity and gratitude.
Gratitude is strongly and consistently associated with greater happiness. Gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions, relish good experiences, improve their health, deal with adversity, and build strong relationships. People feel and express gratitude in multiple ways. They can apply it to the past (retrieving positive memories and being thankful for elements of childhood or past blessings), the present (not taking good fortune for granted as it comes), and the future (maintaining a hopeful and optimistic attitude). Regardless of the inherent or current level of someone’s gratitude, it’s a quality that individuals can successfully cultivate further.